Many times you can find yourself comparing your life to someone else. You see their success and you feel like they have it better than you. You might feel like they have more success or that they have achieved things that you haven't yet.
Comparing yourself to others is a natural thing. It's human nature to want to be better than your peers and there's nothing wrong with that as long as it doesn't become an obsession, because it will not help you achieve your goals.
If you're constantly comparing yourself to other people, you'll never be happy with what you've accomplished in life, regardless of how much money or how many social media followers you have. If anything, comparing yourself will make it even harder for you to reach the goals that matter most to you because it will prevent you from focusing on what's important: taking steps towards achieving them.
Here are three reasons why comparing yourself to others is detrimental for your career:
1) It makes it more difficult for you to focus on what matters most: taking action towards achieving your goals.
2) It distracts from real issues; if we focus too much on external things like material possessions or popularity, we lose track of our inner world — our thoughts and feelings — which are what make us who we are.
3) It can lead to feelings of inadequacy, which can be detrimental for your mental health and well-being.
Being your own worst critic is a real drag. It's hard to get anything done when you're constantly worrying that you're not good enough, smart enough or talented enough to do whatever it is you're trying to do.
Impostor syndrome is a psychological phenomenon that affects many high-achieving people, where they feel like frauds despite their accomplishments. It's similar to the Dunning-Kruger effect, which says that the least competent people are often the most confident in their abilities.
The good news is that there are steps you can take to overcome this common problem and stop feeling like an impostor:
1. Stop comparing yourself to others — especially those who seem more successful than yourself.
2. Be careful who you spend time with. Surround yourself with positive people. People that inspire you to be the best version of yourself.
3. Stop thinking about what could go wrong or what others might think about your performance or ideas for improvement; instead focus on what will go right and how it will benefit everyone involved.
4. Never be afraid to ask for help, or seek support and advice from others.
5. Focus on progress (not perfection) when working on projects; celebrate small wins along the way instead of waiting until everything's perfect before sharing your ideas with others who may be able to help improve them further down the line.
6. If you know what triggers you, eg; competitors or a certain person remove them from your social media, you don't have to unfriend them, you can simply hide notifications regarding that person, so when your scrolling on your news-feed you won't be shown posts from those people which would normally instantly trigger those thoughts in your mind.
7. Practising gratitude. You will always have something to be grateful for, even if it's as simple as having food in your refrigerator or a roof over your head.
8. Finally, start tracking your progress on those things that give you anxiety or stress about not being good enough or making mistakes (and create systems for managing those areas).
Most importantly learn to STAY IN YOUR OWN LANE! This is an extremely powerful action, and once you can train your mindset to block these thoughts and emotions out, and just focus solely on yourself you will instantly feel the transformation this provides. Ant Middleton`s latest book “The Wall” focuses on how to smash self-doubt and become the true you. He talks in depth about techniques that helped him during his career in the SBS. I highly recommend this book if you're struggling with self-doubt.
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